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According To Professionals, Here Are Three Tips To Surviving Difficult People At Work

We’ve all been there: having to deal with the most obnoxious co-workers who have no respect for the personal boundaries of others and have no self-awareness either which is quite the toxic mixture to be working with. Having to spend at least 8 hours a day with such people 5 days a week can be too much to deal with and the stress of having them around can have a major negative impact on your mental health, along with the efficiency you’re trying to keep up while you’re at work.

Such people can’t really be challenged directly since they make things far more difficult by being uncivil, but this doesn’t mean that there aren’t any ways to deal with them without causing more drama in the workplace. Dealing with toxic people can be difficult for people who have trouble standing up for themselves, but these tips should help just about anyone who’s having to tip-toe around a difficult workmate.

Keep Sensitive Details To Yourself

You can’t just hide from your difficult co-worker forever, and a casual conversation is bound to come up sooner or later. Do your best to keep the chit chat to a minimum, and make sure that the topic doesn’t change to something that you’re not comfortable talking about. Beware that sharing any personal details could have negative consequences as your co-worker might use them against you in the future. At best, they might be likely to dismiss any concerns that you might have regarding your life which will add to the negativity that you’re going through. If you don’t want to be ridiculed for any sensitive thoughts or memories that you have, it’s best not to share them with someone who cannot appreciate them.

Don’t Let The Topic Become You

There will be times when you simply cannot turn down a conversation, and that’s when you’ll need to be quick on your feet so that you don’t have to talk much about yourself. In some cases, you might be having issues with your boss, and that makes your situation a little bit more challenging. In this case, use the fact that difficult people are generally not very self-aware and often tend to be narcissists, which means they’ll love talking about themselves. Use this fact as best as you possibly can because it’ll save you from having to talk much at all – you can just ask small questions about them and listen to them drone on about the amazing vacation they had or how well their children are performing in school. Just weather out the storm and get back to your work when the conversation runs out, and the difficult person will feel much better after they’ve just glorified themselves for a few minutes straight which means a lot less trouble for you to deal with.

Don’t Let The Difficult Person Get To You

This isn’t going to be easy and might not get easier with practice either. However, you’re going to have to try your best. If you keep taking what they say personally, all you’re going to do is hurt yourself in the process. You’re going to think about how they talked about your hairstyle, work ethic, or clothes for much longer than you’d want, and you’ll bring this negativity to every aspect of your life if you’re not careful. What’s the best tactic to make things bearable? Don’t care at all about what this toxic person thinks about you; keep your chin up and focus your energy on being a better employee instead. That way, you’ll be improving yourself instead of bringing yourself down. Yes, it can be brutal having to listen to them at times, but you need to realize that getting upset doesn’t affect them in the slightest and only gets in the way of your own well-being. The best response is to make sure you don’t care what their opinions are.

At the end of the day, the most you can hope for is that your toxic co-workers change their habits or get fired. However, chances are they’ll keep pointing out what’s wrong with others or will continue to argue with others for the smallest reasons, and the tips mentioned above will help you survive until you can find a better alternative.

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